Thriving or surviving? Your attitude that you develop over time can make or break your success in many aspects of your life. I want to help you create an unbreakable mindset in life. One issue that I see with clients is self sabotage. This can happen to anyone and everyone goes through it at some point in their life. Emotionally imploding, quitting, complaining, comparing ourselves to others, doubting and procrastinating: Sound familiar? I know you all can relate and I want to help you fix that.
We all have great days. The days that you are on top of the world and everything is just going your way. Things that were once hard in training are becoming easier. You hit a new milestone in your job. Or maybe you had a great day with your significant other or friends. But then you have the bad days. These are the days that your attitude matters the most.
Negative emotions can take over in an instant and you need to have the coping skills to overcome them. Maybe your day at work was super challenging, emotional eating takes over, training suffers and then you feel like everything is just unraveling at your fingertips. What can you do?
Initially, your first reaction is to blame someone or something else for the things happening around you. Maybe you blame your coach for crappy programming. Or maybe you are made at your nutrition coach for not "giving" you enough carbs and you just HAD to go over. We need to stop the pity party and start taking ownership for what is going on with your life.
Self sabotage happens in your mind. Self – sabotage is any behavior, thought, emotion or action that holds you back from getting what you consciously want and are working towards. It’s the conflict that exists between conscious desires and unconscious wants that manifest in self –sabotaging patterns.Guess what, self sabotage prevents you from reaching your goals because it's a safety mechanism for protecting you from disappointment.
If you’re not adding mindset training alongside your physical training then you won’t be as well equipped to deal with any of these negative, ‘self-sabotaging’ behaviors that can occur. You spend time training and conditioning your body so why not do the same for your mind? Make the time to really tap into techniques that will help you overcome negative thoughts as soon as it happens.
How do you overcome it?
Find your why? You have goals but also find your why. Those two things are important when things start to go bad. By writing it down you now know your objectives. and your WHY is your commitment and reminder of why you’re doing what you’re doing.
Track your data. Yes this is also important. How do you know where you want to be if you don't have data to see where you are at? With all of my clients, we focus on writing down our training and nutrition to help them tangibly see what changes are happening and where we want to be.
Be accountable for your own actions. Yes this is the difficult one. When things start to go wrong, it's a lot easier to blame someone else. When you see signs of self sabotage, ask yourself if you can be doing something to change that into a positive.
The biggest takeaway is that you are in the control seat of your actions and thoughts. You can change your thought process on how you will react to things that might appear negative at first but just find a way to turn it into something more positive.