What are you really afraid of? I want you to ask yourself this question and honestly answer it.
This is my fear: Fear of rejection...... Maybe it's yours too! The greatest need of human existence is to be loved and accepted. There is this desire to want to fit in and not feel like an outcast yet we struggle to find who we really are.
The fear of rejection is one of our deepest human fears. Biologically wired with a longing to belong, we fear being seen in a critical way. We’re anxious about the prospect of being cut off, demeaned, or isolated. We fear being alone. We dread change. Does this sound like you?
We may be afraid that rejection confirms our worst fear, that we’re unlovable, or that we’re destined to be alone, or that we have little worth or value. When these fear-based thoughts keep spinning in our mind, we may become agitated, anxious, or depressed. Fear, rejection, hurt and pain are all associated with one another. Instead of gravitating towards people who can help us, we become withdrawn and pull away from those who truly care about us. Somehow, we equate something we "fail" at to "I am a failure" which is not true at all.
When you start to equate ability to self worth, you are crossing a very sketchy area of your life. Equating failure with personal rejection sets you up for a lifetime of fear and unhappiness.What you need to work on is personal growth. You need to start working on building a resilient mindset that you can see things for what it truly is. Just because you made a mistake and "failed" doesn't mean you just stop trying. You have to treat things like a kid again. Fall down seven times and get back up 8. It takes courage and creativity to bring a gentle awareness to what we may like to push away.
I know there are things in my life that I can push to the side because it's a difficult conversation or maybe even an issue that I don't want to really dig back out and relive. Yet, those experiences are not ones that I am learning from because i am not taking the time to analyze them on the full spectrum.
As we become less afraid of what we’re experiencing inside we become less intimidated by rejection and more empowered to love and be loved. Start to see failure as a good thing, as a learning experience that can move your mindset to a whole new place. Momentum is the best way to see success, because momentum requires that we take action, and if we are taking action we are likely failing at some point. When we fail, we become more resourceful you can learn how NOT to do something. In this case, the experience is far more rewarding and needed to learn and grow from than always being successful.