Acceptance is crucial yet is one of the hardest parts of
self-examination; once we accept something, we're responsible. And
if we're responsible, we are the ones to blame for our unhappy life.
I don't know about you, but for the majority of my life so far I have no
idea what I need to be happy. There is always this nagging
feeling that someday I am determined to figure it out. In the meantime, I
figured if I just keep working on my dreams I will find it.
Through self-discovery, I learned something important about myself;
I want to be liked BY EVERYONE! In an attempt to be liked, I
sometimes feel responsible for other people's feelings. I guess my
thinking is that if I protect the feelings of others, I'm a
good person and they will like me because I don't give them a reason not to.
So I use the excuse if people like me, then I can like myself because I am worth it !!
The reality is I cannot change the opinion of others in an attempt to manipulate the way they
view me as a person. This is still looking outside myself for happiness.
How others view you is not as important as how you view yourself.
Having a realistic view of self is key to finding what you need to
be happy. The main point here is that you're not responsible for
how others view you. Be a genuinely good person, do good for others and
make sure your intentions are for the right reasons !