Friday, April 24, 2015

BODY IMAGE.. The GOOD, BAD, and UGLY truth !

Let's be a bit honest here ... BODY IMAGE is an ISSUE !
I will be the first to admit that I have many insecurities about the way I look or want to look for that matter ! My biggest struggle is self-acceptance of how I look at this moment right now. It is a hard concept to swallow, to love your body and not proclaim self hate but in one way or another we all have moments that this occurs. If we hate any part of ourselves, then nothing is ever good enough. No matter what number I was on the scale, whether my chest bones were poking out or whether I had a "thicker" look the issue was never the weight. But it was much easier to blame my body than to take responsibility for my own insecurities and examine my lack of self-worth. If I felt unworthy and unloved, my body would turn into my enemy.

There is also that misconception that if you appear to be healthy that you are in fact healthy. I want to say NO! I may appear to look good on the outside, I workout, I lift, I eat right BUT what you don't see is the mental component which is just as important as how you feel !

I use my body as a battle ground for negative thoughts such as :
The reason you didn't get the jobs is because of your size.
You have an expectation of "looking" fit for your career.
You aren't more successful because the size of your body.
You won't get what you want because the way you look.

Sound familiar? Self-shame, ridicule and humiliation were my everyday habits. I would put my happiness into achieving a certain body weight or "look", and until that happened I would not be satisfied. But guess what??I will never be satisfied because I am a MORE person. At my leanest I wasn't happy just as at other stages I wasn't happy either.. So now what? I need to LEARN SELF LOVE ! Self Love is about acceptance! You and I need to understand that your body helps you live to your full potential. I am learning to listen to it and honor what it needs.
If you are struggling to love yourself or your body, you can let go of certain things in order to reach the love you desire.

Here are 10 things to stop doing today if you want to truly accept and love your body as well as LOVE YOU FOR YOU!
1. Stop blaming your body for the bad things in your life.
It's not your body's fault. Instead say, "Thank you, body, for being with me on this journey."
2. Stop letting a look or comment from someone else determine how you feel about yourself.
That person probably wasn't judging you. You are judging yourself. Instead say, "Self, I forgive you. I send you love."
3. Stop thinking you aren't in the body you are supposed to have.
You are in the best body for you. Let your body be your teacher and guide you to more love.
4. Stop letting the number on the scale or your pant size define you.
You are more than any number. What matters most is how you feel, not how you look.
5. Stop judging yourself by what you can't do and instead celebrate what you can.
Don't be so hard on yourself. The limitation is in your mind. Start saying "I can" and watch how your life transforms.
6. Stop being mean to yourself when you look in the mirror.
You are more beautiful than you can truly see.
7. Stop joining in when your friends compare and trash their own bodies.
You hurt yourself when you bash yourself with others. Instead, celebrate your natural beauty and each other's successes.
8. Stop thinking your looks are more important than how you feel.
Your health is not determined by your size. Focus on feeling good and everything returns to balance naturally.
9. Stop waiting to reach your goal to enjoy your body.
Your life is happening now. You can choose to hate yourself or love yourself. Choose love.
10. Stop thinking you don't matter because of the size your body.
Life is far too hard as it is without you being at war with yourself. When we get the inside right, the outside will fall into place.
Enjoy the miracle that is you!!!

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